DO YOU KNOW HOW TO READ BETWEEN THE CRITICISMS

I love marriage vine ministries. I haven't been reading them as I should. They just offer so much needed information for families. One that has stuck with me since I read it was "READING BETWEEN THE CRITICISMS".

Excerpt from the minute, "If your spouse often criticizes you for not "helping them", they are telling you that acts of service is their love language". PEOPLE TEND TO CRITICIZE THEIR SPOUSE MOST LOUDLY IN THE AREA WHERE THEY THEMSELVES HAVE THE DEEPEST EMOTIONAL NEED.

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I find myself criticizing my friends for not spending time with me. "Spending Time" is one of my love languages. I love to spend time with a person that I adore. This is how I get closer and to mention that I LOVE TO TALK!!!

My issue is that my friend from Memphis will not come to Mississippi. I have known him for four years but he makes excuses that it is too far and that he does not like driving. So, we have not been to a movie together in months because I decided to stop driving 30 to 40 minutes to watch a movie with him. I could not seem to understand why I was bothered about this. But, this minute explained it very well. IT'S MY LOVE LANGUAGE.

So, I urge everyone to know the LOVE LANGUAGE OF YOURSELF and OTHERS IN YOUR LIFE. FOR MY MOM, IT IS DEFINITELY "ACTS OF SERVICE".

CLUTTER RESCUE!!!!!

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Foreword: This book is for anyone who has spent 20 minutes looking for the remote, moved homework to put dinner on the table, searched high and low for that favorite sweater-only to find it crumpled under a stack of dirty clothes-or missed paying a bill on time because it was stuffed in a junk drawer.

I have an issue with clutter. I have never been an organized person. I know this is not a good system. However, I did attempt to organize my closet after an assignment in my "organization of information" class. It did not last very long... me applying these principles. So when I saw this book a couple of weeks ago, I took it home but it took some days before I looked through the pages of it. Chapter 2 was a major interest for me because my bedroom is where I live. It is too small for what I do. I have a computer and computer desk in my bedroom. This takes up a lot of space. And, there are tons of written papers, past assignments, and articles that I am holding on to until I take my "proficiency exam" next summer. So, I definitely needed some advice on how to de-clutter my bedroom.

TIPS THAT I AM USING:

• STORAGE IN STYLE: I AM USING MY LUGGAGE TO STORE SEASONAL CLOTHES. PERHAPS, I CAN FORGO MY MONTHLY STORAGE BILL WHICH IS MAINLY BECAUSE OF CLOTHES.
• THE CLOTHES QUESTION: I HAVE MORE THAN I CARE TO MENTION. MOST OF THEM ARE TOO SMALL THAT ARE HANGING IN MY CLOSET AND IT HAS BEEN MORE THAN A YEAR SINCE I HAVE WORN THEM.
• THE CLOSET RULES: I AM TRYING TO HANG LESS CLOTHES AND USE SOME OF MY AVAILABLE DRAWERS. ALSO, I AM TRYING TO KEEP MY SHIRTS, JEANS, AND SKIRTS TOGETHER. HOPEFULLY, THIS WILL ELIMINATE SOME OF MY GET READY FOR WORK STRESS.
• SIMPLE UNDER BED BOXES: GREAT FOR MY PILES OF PAPERS ON MY COMPUTER DESK.