For Women Only: What You Need To Know About The Inner Lives Of Men

I do not understand men EVEN after reading this book. The way they think is totally different from us. In fact, I have even questioned if they were created this way. But, there must be some truth to this book because it is based upon the opinions of MEN. And, my friends who are men agree with the information that I am sharing.

Therefore, I recommend this book to be added to your reading collection. Shaunti Feldhahn discovered the most profound things about men in my opinion and I want to share them with you. The following are:

• Sex is not just about sex. What does that mean? Well, if a man is having a satisfying sexual relationship with his mate, it helps him at work...in all areas of his life...giving him the confidence that he needs. But, the lack of it can also have a negative result as well. Also, a man take it really personal when his wife says NO. It's more than being rejected physically but he feels unloved and like he is not a good husband. But, I am sure that is not what we are thinking. When we are upset at our spouse, we just do not want to be touched. We want to talk about it before we reconnect in a sexually way, but men are different SEX is how they reconnect and then talking come last. So, SEX is more than just a PHYSICAL act to your husband.


• Looking is hard because of being visual beings. It does not matter if he is a godly man....a man will look.


• Men often feel disrespected and would rather feel unloved than disrespected. Respect is important to a man. They desire to be respected publicly and privately.


• The wife's appearance is important. Husbands want their wives to look nice. They do not have to have a supermodel. But, they want you to be healthy and fit. As you were interested in how you looked while dating, maintain that level of attractiveness in the marriage.

THERE ARE MANY MORE IN THE BOOK

Fifteen Ways to Please Your Husband

I enjoy listening to Dennis & Barbara Rainey on FamilyLife. The broadcast is so encouraging...you come away from listening to them... feeling uplifted and inspired to make changes in your family life. Recently, I subscribed to "Moments With You" from the link to receive daily devotions taken from the book. And, they are wonderful to read. Recently, I enjoyed reading the one titled, "Fifteen Ways to Please Your Husband". Here are the suggestions:

• Write him a letter and send it to his office, or put a love note in his lunch box or his briefcase.
• Prepare his favorite meal.
• Arrange an evening out for just the two of you.
• Greet your husband warmly after work.
• Surprise him with a trip to do something that he likes.
• Pray and read the Scriptures with him daily.
• Wear his favorite dress with your hair done the way he likes it.
• Purchase something small and frivolous for him that he won't buy himself. AND THERE ARE MORE!!!!

Love That Lasts: When Marriage Meets Grace

Here is another book that was recommended last week through MarriageVine. Love That Lasts shows that marriage is about God's glory and not our own. Today, getting married is centered around what is best for ME. For some women, it is all about how good a man look or how well of a provider he is. For some men, it is all about how pretty she is, what type of body she has or how well she can satisfy him sexually. However, this book focuses on the primary purpose of marriage. It tells exactly what marriage should be about. In other words, we need to see marriage as God does to keep it in arrangement with his purpose. Sad to say, many of us did not understand the purpose of marriage and ended up in a divorce. I can attest to this because I am one of those divorce statistics.

Additionally, I really encourage you to subscribe to the daily postings from MarriageVine. It is an investment of time that will strengthen your relationship. I enjoy reading the emails even though they are overwhelming.

BOTTOM LINE: We need to see God through Marriage and not ourselves!!!

Love Notes on His Pillow: And Other Everyday Ways to Keep Your Love Alive

Love Notes on His Pillows by Linda Gilden offers creative ways for spouses to show love toward one another. According to marriagevine, when someone compliments us, it makes us feel good. When someone appreciates us, we feel that we have value. Well, these are the things that we need to do for our spouses. Take some time and plant some hide and seek notes throughout the home and other places. Here are some examples taken from the book.

• Love note for the dresser: Thanks for doing the laundry. I appreciate having clean clothes to wear.
• Love note for the lunch box: Thank you for working hard to support our family. We love you.
• Love note for the refrigerator: Enjoy your snack. I'd like to nibble on you.
• Love note for the remote control: You really know how to push the right buttons with me.
• Love note for the freezer. Wow! It's cold in here, but my heart is warm every time I think of you.

I JUST LOVE THESE NOTES! THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS TO KEEP LOVE GOING STRONG IN MARRIAGES WITHOUT MUCH COST. I STRONGLY RECOMMEND YOU GETTING THIS BOOK FOR YOURSELF OR A FRIEND.

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Marriage Minutes

Every day, I receive an email from marriagevine.com. The marriage minutes are great reminders for us to implement a change into our lives or an awareness on how we live. This minute was basically saying that our actions need to line up with what we speak because others are watching. As a Christian, it is important that we try our hardest to uphold God's standards before others(believers and non-believers) to not stumble anyone. And, above all else, to glorify God's name. This was timely information for me. So far, I have shared this with one friend and plan on reading it to others. Below is the minute !!!!!!

Unbelievers Can Spot Inconsistencies In Our Lives

Then the sailors said to each other, "Come, let us cast lots to find out who is responsible for this calamity." They cast lots and the lot fell on Jonah. Jonah 1:7

Often unbelievers can see more clearly the discrepancies in our lives than we can. Although they may not hold our values or belief system, they can sense when our behavior is out of sync with our profession of faith. When Jonah was discovered to be running from God, the pagan sailors were terrified. "What have you done?" they demanded. It was no doubt superstition that caused them to ask the question. Due to the terrible storm at sea the sailors could see that Jonah had infuriated his God. But from God's perspective, Jonah had seriously compromised his faith in front of pagans and unbelievers.

We too need to show great care in how we live in front of unbelievers. Though they may not share our faith or values, they nonetheless know hypocrisy when they see it. Let's resolve to love and treat one another in our marriages in a way that validates our profession of faith in Christ. Let's conduct our business dealings in a way that glorifies God. Above all, let's be ready to admit when our actions or words have been inconsistent with our faith. If unbelievers can spot hypocrisy, they can also spot genuine integrity and humility. Let's verify the truth of what we believe by how we behave.

Robert and Cheryl Moeller, authors of Marriage Minutes.

Return to Love

Today, I was interested in adding this book to my must read collection, but it was unavailable. A student had checked it out. Now, I am even more interested in reading it. I know that it is a good read. I especially like the synopsis of the book from Barnes and Noble website.

Williamson reveals how we each can become a miracle worker by accepting God and by the expression of love in our daily lives. Whether our psychic pain is in the area of relationships, career, or health, she shows us how love is a potent force, the key to inner peace, and how by practicing love we can make our own lives more fulfilling while creating a more peaceful and loving world for our children.

And, there are two movies that I have seen and enjoyed very much which used her writing about "our greatest fear". They were Coach Carter and Akeelah and the Bee.

Marianne Williamson is an internationally acclaimed author and lecturer. She has published eight books, four of which -- including the megabestseller A Return to Love -- have been #1 New York Times bestsellers. Her titles include Illuminata, Everyday Grace, A Woman's Worth, and Healing the Soul of America.

What's Your Deepest Fear?

Our Greatest Fear
Author: Marianne Williamson

Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

Watch this clip from the movie, Coach Carter!