Leisure Time

LISTENING LEADS TO UNDERSTANDING

2009-10-23T11:00:00.002-05:00

Another great minute from MarriageVine Ministries!!!

Excerpt: When two people are talking at the same time, no one is listening. Consequently, there is no communication. FOR CONVERSATIONS TO BE MEANINGFUL IT REQUIRES TALKING AND LISTENING.

WOW!! Is this hard for some of us to DO? Evidently it is because I find myself talking and not listening. Just recently, I discovered that if I had listened to my friend concerns about his aging mother, I would have understood why spending time with his family is so important when he comes home. He left home for college at the age of 18 and has not returned since for an extended period of time. Actually, it has been since 1992 and every time he comes home he says, " I can see that my mom has aged". After he communicated this to me, I had so much sympathy for him because I get to see my mom everyday. Sometimes, we need to put ourselves in the other person shoes to understand.

So, once again, I urge YOU to listen because it can lead to understanding.

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO READ BETWEEN THE CRITICISMS

2009-10-17T18:36:00.002-05:00

I love marriage vine ministries. I haven't been reading them as I should. They just offer so much needed information for families. One that has stuck with me since I read it was "READING BETWEEN THE CRITICISMS".

Excerpt from the minute, "If your spouse often criticizes you for not "helping them", they are telling you that acts of service is their love language". PEOPLE TEND TO CRITICIZE THEIR SPOUSE MOST LOUDLY IN THE AREA WHERE THEY THEMSELVES HAVE THE DEEPEST EMOTIONAL NEED.

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I find myself criticizing my friends for not spending time with me. "Spending Time" is one of my love languages. I love to spend time with a person that I adore. This is how I get closer and to mention that I LOVE TO TALK!!!

My issue is that my friend from Memphis will not come to Mississippi. I have known him for four years but he makes excuses that it is too far and that he does not like driving. So, we have not been to a movie together in months because I decided to stop driving 30 to 40 minutes to watch a movie with him. I could not seem to understand why I was bothered about this. But, this minute explained it very well. IT'S MY LOVE LANGUAGE.

So, I urge everyone to know the LOVE LANGUAGE OF YOURSELF and OTHERS IN YOUR LIFE. FOR MY MOM, IT IS DEFINITELY "ACTS OF SERVICE".

CLUTTER RESCUE!!!!!

2009-10-15T13:05:00.006-05:00

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Foreword: This book is for anyone who has spent 20 minutes looking for the remote, moved homework to put dinner on the table, searched high and low for that favorite sweater-only to find it crumpled under a stack of dirty clothes-or missed paying a bill on time because it was stuffed in a junk drawer.

I have an issue with clutter. I have never been an organized person. I know this is not a good system. However, I did attempt to organize my closet after an assignment in my "organization of information" class. It did not last very long... me applying these principles. So when I saw this book a couple of weeks ago, I took it home but it took some days before I looked through the pages of it. Chapter 2 was a major interest for me because my bedroom is where I live. It is too small for what I do. I have a computer and computer desk in my bedroom. This takes up a lot of space. And, there are tons of written papers, past assignments, and articles that I am holding on to until I take my "proficiency exam" next summer. So, I definitely needed some advice on how to de-clutter my bedroom.

TIPS THAT I AM USING:

STORAGE IN STYLE: I AM USING MY LUGGAGE TO STORE SEASONAL CLOTHES. PERHAPS, I CAN FORGO MY MONTHLY STORAGE BILL WHICH IS MAINLY BECAUSE OF CLOTHES.
THE CLOTHES QUESTION: I HAVE MORE THAN I CARE TO MENTION. MOST OF THEM ARE TOO SMALL THAT ARE HANGING IN MY CLOSET AND IT HAS BEEN MORE THAN A YEAR SINCE I HAVE WORN THEM.
THE CLOSET RULES: I AM TRYING TO HANG LESS CLOTHES AND USE SOME OF MY AVAILABLE DRAWERS. ALSO, I AM TRYING TO KEEP MY SHIRTS, JEANS, AND SKIRTS TOGETHER. HOPEFULLY, THIS WILL ELIMINATE SOME OF MY GET READY FOR WORK STRESS.
SIMPLE UNDER BED BOXES: GREAT FOR MY PILES OF PAPERS ON MY COMPUTER DESK.

GOOD NEWS

2009-10-08T20:32:00.001-05:00

I was excited to hear TODAY that funding has come through for LAMP SCHOLARS. THANKS LAURA BUSH!!!

IT'S OK IF YOU'RE CLUELESS

2009-10-04T17:27:00.009-05:00

Last week, as I was searching for a book in the stacks, I gravitated toward the most wonderful book. It is a must read for parents and students. Terry McMillan is hilarious with 23 commonsense tips for the college bound. If you are interested in reading something with humor along with gaining some insight about college life, I ask you to read this book. It is only 64 pages. Some of the little chapters that I enjoyed are the following:

Chapter 4: Read Anything and Everything

Chapter 6: Let The Insides Match Your Outsides

Chapter 9: Success Should Not Be Based On Fame or How Much Money You Make

You Are What You Eat

2009-10-02T15:00:00.000-05:00

I was amazed at the information that this book contained. We need to be more aware of what we put into our bodies. For years, I have been wondering WHY I feel a certain way after I eat something or perhaps WHAT I could eat to help a health issue that I was having. I promise that this book will answer many common questions that we go to the doctor for. This book is written by an internationally acclaimed nutritionist and it contains information on food that stress and de-stress, top energy foods, pms & hormonal issues, supplement for weight loss, skin care, naughty foods, good and bad sweets, recipes, etc.

OFFICIAL WEBSITE

10th Anniversary Scholarship Bash

2009-08-18T18:34:00.005-05:00

In photo: ProQuest CEO Marty Kahn and scholarship recipents

(IF YOU LOOK CLOSE, YOU WILL SEE ME).

I had a blast at the Art Institute of Chicago this summer!!! I made alot of new friends!!!

GOOD NEWS

2009-08-10T14:15:00.000-05:00

I was awarded an additional $500 scholarship through UWM for the fall term.

THANKS AMANI

2009-07-13T16:12:00.001-05:00

We appreciate you!

You did a wonderful job of coordinating all of the activities.

I can't wait until the next SUMMER INSTITUTE. I

hope we have many more great speakers who can INSPIRE US to become great librarians.

My LAMPER experience

2009-07-12T15:58:00.001-05:00

I thoroughly enjoyed myself at the Summer Institute. I met new scholars who shared the same passion as I do about libraries. We encouraged each others and created lasting friendships. It was a satisfying experience.

The speakers were dynamic especially Traci Hall. She had so much energy and it permeated over to me. I could fully relate to her messages. One message that continues to ring in my ear is that" friction creates motion". Don't sweat the small stuff but welcome change. Change is what causes us to grow as individuals. It is completely okay to be in a work environment that is not ideal. Take advantage of the situation because it will prepare you for your future. Be real to yourself...seek a life for yourself which is gratifying. Don't allow yourself to be tied down to material things but travel light.

NEW ARRIVALS

2009-06-22T10:54:00.006-05:00

I went to the mailbox this Saturday morning and was excited to see the new arrivals. UWM has given me free subscriptions to library journals. Let me say it again, for FREE. I will be receiving the School Library Journal and Library Journal for approximately 12-20 months. As soon as I arrived home, I highlighted all the programs that I would like to attend while at the ALA conference.

Managing Libraries: I'm a Leader, I'm a Follower: Middle Management Theory and Practice
FYE: Connecting First-Year College Students with the Library
Bringing the Immersion Program Back Home
Reinvent Your Professional Identity: How To Maximize Job Opportunities During a Down-Turned Economy
Retaining Distance Students from Diverse Groups in Higher Education: How Can Libraries Help?
Practical Tips on Dealing with the Most Challenging Library Patrons
What Does Gaming Have To Do With Books, Anyway? Justifications for Games in Libraries
When Is Nice Too Nice?
Only for Passionate Librarians: Working in Rural and Small Libraries

And, it has a great article titled, "MLS: Hire Grounds?" that I read. So, I look forward to reading these journals as they come....hoping time will permit it.

LAMP SCHOLAR

2009-06-16T13:00:00.000-05:00

I am so excited. I have been selected as a LAMP scholar. I will attend the 2009 LAMP Summer Institute, July 8 - 12, hosted this year by Dominican University, Graduate School of Library and Information Science, River Forest, Illinois. This is a great professional development and networking opportunity where I will attend workshops on library related topics, visit academic libraries and meet other LAMP scholars from partner schools in the Midwest. And , this year the LAMP Summer Institute includes two days of participation at the American Library Association Conference.

What is LAMP?

LIS Access Midwest Program (LAMP) is a regional network of academic libraries and information science schools dedicated to promoting careers within the field of library and information science (LIS) by encouraging promising undergraduate students at its member institutions to participate in activities and events designed to increase their awareness of the profession and to provide support for subsequent graduate studies in library and information science. LAMP seeks to employ a range of recruitment techniques including summer institutes and internships, peer and professional mentorship and guidance, and financial assistance for the completion of a Masters degree in LIS.

GRADES ARE IN

2009-05-29T08:00:00.001-05:00

It's over!! I finished my first semester in grad school. I must admit it is challenging. I had no clue that it would require so much studying on my part. However, I can honestly say that I am learning due to the required readings and the depth of the curriculum.

FINAL GRADES:

A- (Introduction to Library and Information Science)
B (Organization of Information)

SUMMER SCHOOL IS AHEAD!!!

WHAT AM I LEARNING

2009-04-15T20:19:00.009-05:00

What in the world is Metadata? Data about data. I am trying very hard to understand all of this. There is so much to comprehend that I am reading throughout the day and night. Even though, I have worked in libraries for almost 15 years; this is a very challenging class . I realize now that I need this degree to become more knowledgeable about library services.

Feeling Change; Commitments Don't

2009-03-03T19:37:00.002-06:00

Love never fails. I Corinthians 13:8

A national magazine devoted its Valentine's Day issue to the subject of love. It reported on the results of a study done in a university research setting that revealed that the hormones that produce the warm sensation of being "in love" eventually lose their potency and wear out. Therefore higher and higher levels of the same hormone are required to produce the same feelings of exhilaration, dreaminess, and infatuation.

Their conclusion: It will take something other than high-voltage body chemistry to keep a couple together for a lifetime. The radioactive hormones that produce a "romantic high" just can't be sustained.

But where infatuation ends, real love begins. Let us encourage you to seek out an older couple you both know well who have a love relationship. Meet with them, ask them questions, and observe their behavior. You may not see the same dreamy-eyed emotions displayed that infatuation brings, but what you will observe is deep respect, a strong sense of attraction, and a deep satisfaction and joy just being together. Real love is just as exhilarating, if not more so, than adolescent hormone rushes. So be encouraged. Just because the infatuation stage may have ended, you haven't fallen out of love. Something far more precious, beautiful, and long lasting can take its place. It's called real love.

Today's Marriage Minute comes entirely from the book Marriage Minutes by Dr. Bob and Cheryl Moeller.

The OSCARS!!!

2009-03-03T10:00:00.002-06:00

Four years ago, a friend and I made an effort to watch the oscar winning movies or just the nominated ones because it is such a big deal in Hollywood. We wanted to see what all the noise was about. We understood after we watched some of them. Just to name a few: Cold Mountain, Last Samurai, Gladiator, Crash, Departed, Lord of the Ring, Ray, Collateral, etc.

The depth of the storylines are what continues to hold my attention. Even though, many are nominated for best costumes,visual effects, music, and sound which are very important to some movie watchers but I love the plots. These movies challenge you to watch something out of your norm. And, I eagerly accept the challenge of learning new information.

Last year, I saw The Curious Case of Benjamin Button which was terrific...it moved me to tears. It was just so heartwarming!!! If you get a chance, go see Brad Pitt 's performance in this movie which won an Oscar. This year I plan on going to see Slumdog Millionaire which won 8 Oscars and best motion picture of the year. The other one I plan to watch is Reader with Kate Winslet.

Here is a quick reveiw from yahoo:

Slumdog Millionaire: The story of Jamal Malik, an 18 year-old orphan from the slums of Mumbai, who is about to experience the biggest day of his life. With the whole nation watching, he is just one question away from winning a staggering 20 million rupees on India's "Who Wants To Be A Millionaire?" But when the show breaks for the night, police arrest him on suspicion of cheating; how could a street kid know so much? Desperate to prove his innocence, Jamal tells the story of his life in the slum where he and his brother grew up, of their adventures together on the road, of vicious encounters with local gangs, and of Latika, the girl he loved and lost. Each chapter of his story reveals the key to the answer to one of the game show's questions. Intrigued by Jamal's story, the jaded Police Inspector begins to wonder what a young man with no apparent desire for riches is really doing on this game show? When the new day dawns and Jamal returns to answer the final question, the Inspector and sixty million viewers are about to find out...

The Reader: When he falls ill on his way home from school, 15 year-old Michael Berg is rescued by Hanna, a woman twice his age. The two begin an unexpected and passionate affair only for Hanna to suddenly and inexplicably disappear. Eight years later, Michael, now a young law student observing Nazi war trials, meets his former lover again, under very different circumstances. Hanna is on trial for a hideous crime, and as she refuses to defend herself, Michael gradually realizes his boyhood love may be guarding a secret she considers to be more shameful than murder.

Beauty Is In the Character, Not The Eyes Of The Beholder

2009-03-02T08:45:00.000-06:00

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Proverbs 31:30

Our culture worships beauty, youthful physique, and sex appeal. If you don't believe us, count the number of models over fifty years old used in television commercials (excluding the arthritis pain reliever ads). Or switch on Monday Night Football and count the number of wives or children portrayed. Chances are you won't find many there. Why? Because portraying the reality of the aging process and life's necessary commitments would pop the fantasy of good brews, good times, and good babes.

Far too many people choose their life's mate on the shaky premise that happiness and intimacy are the direct result of a muscular body of a shapely figure. Certainly physical beauty is one element of the mystery of love between a man and a woman. But it is meant only as a minor movement, not the basis for the entire symphony. As Proverbs aptly observes, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." It is the lasting character traits of faith, devotion, and obedience to God that gives a wife the traits a husband can love for a lifetime. Is culture's list or God's list more important to you?

Today's Marriage Minute comes entirely from the book Marriage Minutes by Dr. Bob and Cheryl Moeller.

BACK TO SCHOOL

2009-02-05T20:00:00.004-06:00

I started my online classes this week through the University of Wisconsin and the syllabus looks overwhelming. I am only taking two classes but wish I had the time to take another one. I need 12 classes to have a Masters in Library and Information Science and I am anticipating it very much. I just want to finish as quickly as possible. I have been in school for so long. It is time for me to become a professional librarian and it will happen soon. For this semester, I am taking Foundation of Library & Information Science and Organization of Information. I have learned so much in just two weeks by just participating in the discussion board with my classmates. Many have years of library experience which makes the discussion so much more interesting. So, I am excited to be learning all of this information. Yet, nervous about some aspects of the assignments because I have no knowledge of Metadata. However, I expect to be well-prepared when I am done with school.

For now, I will not be writing as much in this blog due to my courseload. However, I will keep you posted on my life which will be mostly doing homework and a good read when I get an opportunity.

FUNNY MATHEMATICS

2009-01-21T18:07:00.004-06:00

I received this through email from a friend and thought they were hilarious.

ROMANCE MATHEMATICS
Smart man + smart woman = romance
Smart man + dumb woman = affair
Dumb man + smart woman = marriage
Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy

OFFICE ARITHMETIC
Smart boss + smart employee = profit
Smart boss + dumb employee = production
Dumb boss + smart employee = promotion
Dumb boss + dumb employee = overtime

SHOPPING MATH
A man will pay $20 for a $10 item he needs.
A woman will pay $10 for a $20 item that she doesn't need.

GENERAL EQUATIONS & STATISTICS
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife. A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

HAPPINESS
To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.

LONGEVITY
Married men live longer than single men do, but married men are a lot more willing to die.

PROPENSITY TO CHANGE
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.

DISCUSSION TECHNIQUE A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

HOW TO STOP PEOPLE FROM BUGGING YOU ABOUT GETTING MARRIED
Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, 'You're next.' They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

Marley and Me: A Suprising Message on the Value of Marriage and Family

2009-01-21T17:35:00.004-06:00

By Dave Boehi
Marriage Memo, Family Life

I like pleasant surprises when I see a movie. So many films fail to live up to their potential—they’re too long, or too strange and dark, or too poorly-written. It’s rare when a movie is better than I expected, or when a film unexpectedly echoes many of the values that guide my life.

This was the case with Marley and Me. My wife, Merry, and I expected to see a lightweight comedy about a married couple trying to control a lively dog. But the film is much more than that—it also is a surprisingly honest look at the pressures that many couples face during the first dozen years of marriage. By focusing on the choices that Josh and Jenny Grogan make about career and children, the film affirms the value of commitment and the joy of family.

Other writers have mentioned that Marley and Me is much more than it appears to be in its own television advertisements. “Don’t be fooled by the trailers that coyly make Marley and Me out to be some lighthearted tale of canine hijinks,” writes Christa Banister on Crosswalk.com. “Unlike most Hollywood movies, Marley and Me also provides a realistic, yet thoroughly praiseworthy endorsement for marriage … John and Jenny have chosen to honor their marriage vows no matter where the journey takes them. It’s a solid message that underscores the importance of family—with or without a menacing canine in the picture.”

Two threads in the movie underscored this theme in a powerful way. One follows the choice Jenny makes to give up her career in journalism to raise her children full-time. After their second son is born, and feeling the stress of raising two children, she launches into an emotional tirade and questions whether she gave up too much. It is raw and honest, and it reminded me of the exhaustion and pressure Merry and I felt after our second child was born.

The second thread in the film was the feeling of discontent Josh feels about his own career choices. He writes a popular newspaper column (often focusing on the antics of his dog Marley), but he enviously watches his single friend Sebastian travel around the globe as a reporter. As the story progresses Sebastian becomes a picture of what life would have looked like if Josh had made different choices about his marriage and family. Josh tells Jenny, “None of this was part of the plan,” and she replies, “No, but it’s so much better.”

Marley and Me has struck a chord with America’s movie-going public—it was the top holiday movie and by last week had earned over $125 million at the box office. I should note that although it’s billed as a family film, it fully earns its PG rating with some language and sensuality, plus a sad sequence about the death of a dog that will disturb some children.

The movie has received mixed ratings from critics, with a number criticizing it for the very things that I like. “Although the Grogans have their spats, one of which drive John temporarily out of the house, the screenplay glosses over their domestic crises to convey the fantasy of a marriage that is mostly smooth sailing…” writes Stephen Holden of the New York Times.

I suppose that some people don’t consider a family “realistic” in a movie unless it is beset with neuroses, dysfunction, and hidden secrets. As for me, I like seeing a positive portrayal for once—and I know from experience that a marriage like this is not a fantasy at all.

I JUST LOVED THIS MOVIE....MY MOM AND I CRIED AND LAUGHED HYSTERICALLY, PLEASE GO SEE IT.

Are you Passively Aggressive?

2009-01-20T19:48:00.006-06:00

Recently, I was asked to look up the term "passively aggressive" because perhaps this is ME. After reading the information on this style of communication, I was quite shocked.

Here are a few of the characteristics of a passive-aggressive communicator.

You manipulate others to choose your way.
YOu appear honest but underlying comments confuse.
You tend towards indirectness with the air of being direct.
You are self-enchanting but not straight forward about it.
If you don't get your way you'll make snide comments or pout and be the victim.
You feel confused, unclear on how to feel, you are angry but not sure why. Later you possibly feel guilty.

So, I just kept searching sites and reading until I came across this one called helloquizzy which allowed me to take the passive aggressive test and here are the results.

Your result for The are you overtly or passively aggressive Test...

Nice person!

1 overtly aggressive, 2 passive aggressive

There is usually an appropriate way to act in every situation. And you are rather good at doing that. You don't take things out on people, and you don't try to make their lives miserable. Nice job.

You scored low in both overt and passive forms of aggression. The world could use more people like you!

To see if you lean towards being passive or overtly aggressive, look at your scores below. Anything over 2 shows at least a slight tendency!

Take the are you overtly or passively aggressive Test

The Real Message

2008-12-10T08:33:00.001-06:00

Today's Seeking Him Devotional with Nancy Leigh DeMoss

As the Christmas season was approaching one year, I talked with a woman whose husband was in bondage to some destructive, sinful behavior. I’d been meditating on the message delivered by the angel Gabriel to Mary. He said, “You shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.”

I encouraged this wife, “Remember that Jesus came to save your husband from his sin.” The story of Christmas brings hope to real-world situations. “Joy to the world” is more than just a Christmas cliché. It’s the real message of a real Savior born to solve real problems.

Are you facing problems this season that threaten to outweigh your joy? Don’t forget that the ultimate solution to these problems is the Savior who came to rescue us from sin and lead us into a right relationship with God. So turn to the only one who can provide true peace.

He's Just Not That Into You

2008-12-09T17:30:00.006-06:00

I am re-visiting this book which came out in 2004. If you are wondering, if a guy is really into YOU. I suggest that you read this book and you will be shocked to learn that we make excuses for guys when they give us the cold shoulder. Pay attention to what they are doing instead of what they are saying. Here is a synopsis from Publishers Weekly:

It’s a classic single-woman scenario: you really like this guy, but he’s giving mixed messages. You make excuses, decide he’s confused, afraid of commitment. Behrendt, a former executive story editor for Sex and the City—and a formerly single (now happily married) guy who knows all the excuses—provides a simple answer: he’s just not that into you. Stop kidding yourself, let go and look for someone else who will be. After all, as Behrendt sensibly puts it, "if a (sane) guy really likes you, there ain’t nothing that’s going to get in his way." If you’re not convinced yet, by all means read this smart, funny and surprisingly upbeat little book, full of q’s and a’s covering every excuse woman has ever made to avoid admitting to herself that a man just wasn’t that smitten with her.

How Do I Set Priorities?

2008-12-05T08:45:00.000-06:00

Telephone answering machine: This is Seeking Him with Nancy Leigh DeMoss. Please leave your question at the tone. (Beep)

“My husband and I are trying to think through our schedules, and we’re trying to decide whether or not I should take a job. How do I make such a big decision?

Nancy Leigh DeMoss: As with all big decisions, the first place to turn is the Word of God. I’d look, for example, at Titus 2:4-5. It says women are to “love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be keepers (or workers) at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands.”

As you make a decision, ask yourself some questions based on those verses. For example, will a job outside the home interfere with your ability to serve your husband and children? Will it keep you from fulfilling your responsibilities at home? Just be sure your decision is based on God’s priorities for your life.

With Seeking Him, I’m Nancy Leigh DeMoss.

Mistotle for Marriage- 25 days of Comfort and Joy

2008-12-04T08:18:00.000-06:00

MOMENTS WITH YOU

2008-12-03T17:28:00.004-06:00

Master Builders

by Barbara Rainey

When your marriage relationship hits a trouble spot, it may be difficult to find much to praise about each other. Yet those are the times we need praise the most. So I urge you to initiate praising your spouse. Make it a deliberate effort. Bring the power of positive words to him or her in the midst of trouble.

In the verse above, the author (who may have been Solomon) gave some very descriptive characteristics of well-spoken words. When you choose to encourage and praise your spouse, your words carry the ability to prod, or goad, him or her in the right direction. And notice the result: Those words become like “well-driven nails,” the kind that secure all types of building projects.

In the hands of God, your words can be used like nails to secure your mate’s self-esteem. Your wise and truthful words bring perspective to his or her life, to your relationship and to your situation as a couple. They make finding solutions to your problems a real possibility.

You may be asking, “What if all this praise goes to my spouse’s head? Won’t he become prideful?” There’s a difference between truthful praise and flattery. Flattery gratifies a person’s vanity, but praise is based on a person’s character and deeds. When you truthfully praise and applaud your spouse’s choices, you reinforce the value of building godly character.

Paul exhorts us, “Speak truth each one of you with his neighbor” (Ephesians 4:25). A keyword in that phrase is “truth,” which is the only real standard for bringing value to another person. Truth results in assurance and security, in worth and value. It becomes the compass during the storm that confidently steers us in the right direction.

So praise your spouse in all situations, using wisdom to meet the need of the moment, speaking truthfully to help construct character. Your words of affirmation can help rebuild what life has torn apart.

Discuss
What’s been blocking the flow of affirming words in your relationship? Share three real compliments with each other.

Pray
Pray for a heart that longs to build up, not tear down.

Have You Ever Wondered If You Married The Wrong Person?

2008-11-25T08:33:00.002-06:00

Pastor Bob Moeller is not a licensed psychologist or marriage therapist. However,he is a Pastor-at-Large with MarriageVine Ministries, a ministry designed to help couples remain consistently in the vine of Jesus Christ.

Here is his opinion on this if you are wrestling with this thought!!

It’s not uncommon when couples are struggling with their marriage to wonder if you made the right choice when you got married. Doubts such as these are normal and natural and are usually temporary in nature and pass on. There are clearly situations in Scripture where we are told not to marry certain people (such as the result of an adulterous affair or where one person is a believer and the other is not). Assuming that’s not the case, let’s look at how you can put an end to the nagging idea you married the wrong person.

You can find peace of mind and relief from your stress by going back to one of the most basic teachings of the Bible: God is in control of our lives (the technical word is sovereignty). That means nothing happens in life without God’s permission or ultimate say in the matter. Let’s get to the place where the Bible speaks directly to your worry that you married the wrong person found in Genesis chapter 2, “Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man (verse 22).” Did you catch that? God Himself fashioned, designed, and created the very first wife for the very first man. The Creator of the Universe created the very first woman exactly with Adam in mind (and vice versa).

Which brings me to my first prescription: Stop repeating the thought you married the wrong person and instead three times a day thank God for creating the person you married just as He did. You can relax and take comfort in the fact that God, in His infinite wisdom and love, designed and fashioned the person you married with you in mind (and vice versa).

This leads me to my second prescription: Whenever you are assaulted by doubts that you married the wrong person, stop and repeat these simple words, “And God brought her to the man.” Do this each and every time you struggle with doubts and you will find yourself looking at your mate in a whole way. “So this really is the person God had in mind in me…” will replace the ugly and discouraging thought you are mismatched and in the wrong marriage. Again, the basic biblical truth behind this prescription for peace of mind is this: God is sovereign. That means He is in complete control of all the events of our lives, including who you married.

Even if you are going through a difficult time in your relationship, you can rest in the fact Jesus Christ is directing the course of your lives – past, present and future.

Prescriptions For Healthy Marriages

2008-11-24T19:10:00.009-06:00

Focus on the Family has a long list of resources for married couples to enjoy. Take a look at the resources available and surprise your mate with one. Here are a few of the books on the list that I especially like:

END OF THE EARTH SERIES ON THE TODAY SHOW

2008-11-19T08:33:00.002-06:00

Green House: Eco-Friendly Disposal And Recycling At Home

2008-11-18T15:13:00.007-06:00

PBS is broadcasting a program on living green. According to PBS, the program will share strategies for conserving energy in one's home. At our library, we have a great little book on living GREEN. It is written by Norm Crampton and it provides practical information for adopting a greener and more earth friendly habits of disposal by promoting recycling and living a little lighter. In this book, all sorts of unimaginable items are mentioned for recycling like the following: Fireplace Ashes? Cat Litter? Grease? Light Bulbs? Dog Poop? Cooking oil? Diapers? Batteries? Computers and Hard Drives? Telephone Books?

Dollars to Doughnuts

2008-11-16T13:41:00.001-06:00

Daily Devotional from Moments With You, Dennis & Barbara Rainey

If we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it. Romans 8:25

Not long after I graduated from the University of Arkansas, a female friend came to me for counsel. She was dating a young man who happened to be my best friend. And though she wanted to marry him, he was uncertain about committing to her.

I had doubts, too, about whether they should marry. So I told her a parable I had recently heard, about a boy who’d been playing in his front yard when his uncle stopped by to visit. After talking for a bit, the man sprung a philosophical question on his five-year-old nephew: “If I gave you the choice, would you like a dime today or a dollar next week?”

The boy stood and thought. A dollar could buy him that rubber ball he’d seen at the corner store, but a “dime today” could mean a package of potato chips for his hungry late-afternoon stomach. So he took the dime, bought his snack and went home happy.

But about a week later, a buddy passed his house bouncing a new rubber ball. The boy then thought about his uncle’s offer. The chips were a distant memory, along with the dime that had seemed so valuable at the moment. If only he’d been willing to wait for that rubber ball later on.

There’s a lot of truth to that story, you know. Sometimes we’re so glamorized by the glint and gleam of the one thing we want right now that we’re not willing to wait and trust God for the something better He planned for us down the line.

I should know. Because just over a year later, this female friend of mine decided to marry someone else—my best friend’s best friend. Me. And even though there’s been a lot of inflation since then, Barbara says she got her dollar!

ANOTHER EXCELLENT MOMENTS WITH YOU!!

3-Hour Diet

2008-11-16T07:35:00.003-06:00

It works for me!! I feel some much better after eating SMALL portions throughout the day. I have more energy. I just need to be consistent with eating this way and I will see the results that I so desperately desire. A friend introduced me to this concept after losing 30 pounds by eating every 3 hours. At first, I was skeptical about eating so much on a daily basis and not worrying about what I eat. I had never heard of such. It is called the 3-Hour Diet.

The book is not available at the library where I work. So, I googled the title and found an informative article from WebMD about the 3-Hour Diet.

Jorge Cruise believes that eating this way increases your metabolic rate--how fast your body burns calories, increase energy, and decrease appetite.
Cruise believes that portions are very important as well as timing. And that there are no bad foods, just bad portions. If you learn to eat the right portion, at the right time, you will lose weight.
Bottom line: (1) Eat breakfast within one hour of rising (2) Eat every three hours thereafter (3) Stop eating three hours before bedtime.

The latter is the hardest for me to do because I get off of work at 9pm. And, I am hungry when I get home. And, even more after riding my bike for 30 -45 mins.

Stay As Far As You Can From Infidelity

2008-11-14T09:35:00.002-06:00

Now then, my son, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say. Keep to a path far from [the adultress], do not go near the door of her house . . .Proverbs 5:7-8

Charles Spurgeon, the great English preacher of the nineteenth century, used to tell the story of a man who wanted to hire a buggy driver. He asked each applicant the same question: "How close do you think you can drive my carriage to the edge of a cliff without falling off?"

Driver after driver boasted of his daring and driving prowess. Yet none of them was offered the position. Finally one applicant appeared who considered the question, then gave a very different answer. "Sir, as your carrige driver it would be my business to keep you as far away from the edge of the cliff as possible," he said. "I have no intention of seeing how close to the edge I can come." He was hired on the spot.

The question in a marriage relationship should not be "How close can I come to infidelity without crossing the line?" Instead it should be "How can I put safeguards in place that will prevent me from even coming close to adultery?" Enter into a covenant today that you will both live your lives as far from the edge as humanly possible.

THIS WAS AN EXCELLENT MARRIAGE MINUTE!!!

Picture Perfect Weight Loss

2008-11-13T14:13:00.000-06:00

I was sharing with a friend my frustrations about eating after reading a book on sugars. Sugars are in the most unexpected foods. It seems like my eating habits are so unhealthy regardless of the efforts that I make to eat healthier foods. I started two months ago eating side salads as my main course when I go to a restaurant. And, I was eating soups, granola bars, 100 pack calories snacks, and drinking a lot of fruit juices assuming that I was getting it right. And, I come to find out that many of these choices were full of sugars.

Therefore, a book was suggested for me to examine called "Picture Perfect," by Dr. Shapiro to see if it would help. Dr. Shapiro uses pictures to illustrate your calorie intake.

Publisher Weekly's synopsis: "A New York-based physician specializing in weight control, Shapiro will no doubt startle many lifelong dieters and experts with his approach to eating. There are no "correct" portions and there are no bad foods. Instead, he insists that people must become aware of what they're consuming. To illustrate this principle, the book is filled with color photographs of different foods.

For example, one page shows a handful of mixed nuts, potato chips and vegetable crisps: these three portions have 400 calories each, but 10 cups of popcorn has the same number of calories as the rest. A one-cup serving of Quaker Natural Cereal has 540 calories, but that same number of calories is found in 16 low-cal Fudgsicles. Shapiro uses real-life examples of people with weight problems and includes practical advice, albeit in brief chapters, on exercise and the psychological reasons why people become overweight. However, the power of this book is clearly the illustrations showing the "right" and "wrong" food choices. Shapiro walks readers through ethnic menus (Chinese, Greek, etc.), explaining which choices make the most sense health wise. This is a smart approach to dieting from which everyone, regardless of their weight, will benefit. "

ONLINE DATING

2008-11-10T08:00:00.000-06:00

Dr. Laura Berman discusses what to do and what not to do when looking for love on the Internet.

For Better, For Worse, For Keeps Marriage Seminar

2008-11-09T13:58:00.009-06:00

Attending this seminar would be a great investment for couples!! Look here to see the schedule and information about the seminar. Taken from the website, here are some of the topics that will be discussed.

Building Intimacy: The Accepting Heart.
Communication and Conflict.
Seven Secrets to a Great Sex Life
How to Stay Together - For Better AND For Worse.

Revive Our Hearts: God Will Sustain You

2008-11-07T08:00:00.004-06:00

A daily devotional from Nancy Leigh DeMoss inspired me the other day titled, "God Will Sustain You."

If God has placed you in a challenging situation, are you leaning on him to help you? God's Word says, "My grace is sufficient for you." That means he will never lead you anyplace where his grace will not sustain you. He will never place more on you than he will give you grace to bear. Therefore, when the path in front of you seems endless, remember, the day is coming when all suffering will be over. When you stand before him, the tears and sorrows of a lifetime will seem as nothing compared with his glory. That's when you will say, "His amazing grace has brought me safely home."

And I hope that many of you believe this because God will sustain his children. Believe and have faith in this period of time!

Get The Sugar Out: 501 Simple Ways to Cut the Sugar Out of Any Diet

2008-11-06T18:36:00.008-06:00

What a wonderful book! It provides insight on sugar that I was unaware of. As I continue to read this book, I am realizing that my eating habits are horrible. I am feeding my body more sugar than I realized. Sugars are hidden in so many foods which are not even imaginable. And, to control my craving of sugar is not an easy task to accomplish. This is why this book is so wonderful to read. It discusses the most simple ways to cut sugar out of any diet. It provides the basic tips on low sugar shopping, cooking, and dining out, and brand-new information on the truth about artificial sweeteners. Here are a few of the tips in the book:

Cereals are one of the top places you need to watch for sugars. Look for cereals that are whole-grain with 3 grams of sugars or less per serving if possible.
In 1 cup of milk there's 11 grams of sugars, so go easy using it.
Hold the salt for a couple of reasons. First, too much salt in the diet can cause sugar craving.
Pass up the ketchup, a little something that seems so innocent but is really a sugar monger in disguise. In fact, ounce for ounce, ketchup has more sugar in it than ice cream!
Avoid eating sweets between meals. Try instead more substantial mini-meals.
Granola may seem like a health food, but its sugar content often puts it in the same league as many desserts.
A cooked sweet potato is a great way to satisfy your sweet tooth. Full of fiber and nutrients, sweet potatoes also have another unexpected advantage: They rank only 48 on the glycemic index.
Eating your baked potato with a little butter, high-quality oil, sour cream, or low-fat cream cheese is better for your blood sugar than eating it plain. This is because it is a very high inducer of insulin. But, eating fat or protein with your potato will slow down the insulin response and keep your blood sugar steadier.
Diet drinks are dangerous and definite no-nos even when you are trying to avoid sugar. Not only are aspartame-sweetened drinks believed to deplete the body of chromium, a mineral important for proper blood sugar functioning, but storing these drinks in hot places may cause the aspartame in them to break down into toxic chemicals that can cause a multitude of health problems.

Additionally, the book has holiday coping strategies, desserts made with fabulous fruits, satisfying cookies, soup basics, meaty matters, how to be menu savvy when eating out, and the top ten tips.

" THE BRIDGE"

2008-11-03T08:00:00.000-06:00

This video depicts God's love for us. Let us not forget this and live our life in accord with his will. John 3:16

Thanks Eva for sharing!

For Women Only: What You Need To Know About The Inner Lives Of Men

2008-11-02T15:57:00.014-06:00

I do not understand men EVEN after reading this book. The way they think is totally different from us. In fact, I have even questioned if they were created this way. But, there must be some truth to this book because it is based upon the opinions of MEN. And, my friends who are men agree with the information that I am sharing.

Therefore, I recommend this book to be added to your reading collection. Shaunti Feldhahn discovered the most profound things about men in my opinion and I want to share them with you. The following are:

Sex is not just about sex. What does that mean? Well, if a man is having a satisfying sexual relationship with his mate, it helps him at work...in all areas of his life...giving him the confidence that he needs. But, the lack of it can also have a negative result as well. Also, a man take it really personal when his wife says NO. It's more than being rejected physically but he feels unloved and like he is not a good husband. But, I am sure that is not what we are thinking. When we are upset at our spouse, we just do not want to be touched. We want to talk about it before we reconnect in a sexually way, but men are different SEX is how they reconnect and then talking come last. So, SEX is more than just a PHYSICAL act to your husband.

Looking is hard because of being visual beings. It does not matter if he is a godly man....a man will look.

Men often feel disrespected and would rather feel unloved than disrespected. Respect is important to a man. They desire to be respected publicly and privately.

The wife's appearance is important. Husbands want their wives to look nice. They do not have to have a supermodel. But, they want you to be healthy and fit. As you were interested in how you looked while dating, maintain that level of attractiveness in the marriage.

THERE ARE MANY MORE IN THE BOOK

Fifteen Ways to Please Your Husband

2008-10-28T08:00:00.005-05:00

I enjoy listening to Dennis & Barbara Rainey on FamilyLife. The broadcast is so encouraging...you come away from listening to them... feeling uplifted and inspired to make changes in your family life. Recently, I subscribed to "Moments With You" from the link to receive daily devotions taken from the book. And, they are wonderful to read. Recently, I enjoyed reading the one titled, "Fifteen Ways to Please Your Husband". Here are the suggestions:

Write him a letter and send it to his office, or put a love note in his lunch box or his briefcase.
Prepare his favorite meal.
Arrange an evening out for just the two of you.
Greet your husband warmly after work.
Surprise him with a trip to do something that he likes.
Pray and read the Scriptures with him daily.
Wear his favorite dress with your hair done the way he likes it.
Purchase something small and frivolous for him that he won't buy himself. AND THERE ARE MORE!!!!

Love That Lasts: When Marriage Meets Grace

2008-10-27T08:00:00.001-05:00

Here is another book that was recommended last week through MarriageVine. Love That Lasts shows that marriage is about God's glory and not our own. Today, getting married is centered around what is best for ME. For some women, it is all about how good a man look or how well of a provider he is. For some men, it is all about how pretty she is, what type of body she has or how well she can satisfy him sexually. However, this book focuses on the primary purpose of marriage. It tells exactly what marriage should be about. In other words, we need to see marriage as God does to keep it in arrangement with his purpose. Sad to say, many of us did not understand the purpose of marriage and ended up in a divorce. I can attest to this because I am one of those divorce statistics.

Additionally, I really encourage you to subscribe to the daily postings from MarriageVine. It is an investment of time that will strengthen your relationship. I enjoy reading the emails even though they are overwhelming.

BOTTOM LINE: We need to see God through Marriage and not ourselves!!!

Love Notes on His Pillow: And Other Everyday Ways to Keep Your Love Alive

2008-10-26T17:33:00.006-05:00

Love Notes on His Pillows by Linda Gilden offers creative ways for spouses to show love toward one another. According to marriagevine, when someone compliments us, it makes us feel good. When someone appreciates us, we feel that we have value. Well, these are the things that we need to do for our spouses. Take some time and plant some hide and seek notes throughout the home and other places. Here are some examples taken from the book.

Love note for the dresser: Thanks for doing the laundry. I appreciate having clean clothes to wear.
Love note for the lunch box: Thank you for working hard to support our family. We love you.
Love note for the refrigerator: Enjoy your snack. I'd like to nibble on you.
Love note for the remote control: You really know how to push the right buttons with me.
Love note for the freezer. Wow! It's cold in here, but my heart is warm every time I think of you.

I JUST LOVE THESE NOTES! THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS TO KEEP LOVE GOING STRONG IN MARRIAGES WITHOUT MUCH COST. I STRONGLY RECOMMEND YOU GETTING THIS BOOK FOR YOURSELF OR A FRIEND.

Are You Up For A Challenge?

2008-10-21T00:00:00.001-05:00

CLICK THE TITLE

Take the challenge and see what happens! I am taking the 30-day True Woman Makeover!

Marriage Minutes

2008-10-20T08:00:00.004-05:00

Every day, I receive an email from marriagevine.com. The marriage minutes are great reminders for us to implement a change into our lives or an awareness on how we live. This minute was basically saying that our actions need to line up with what we speak because others are watching. As a Christian, it is important that we try our hardest to uphold God's standards before others(believers and non-believers) to not stumble anyone. And, above all else, to glorify God's name. This was timely information for me. So far, I have shared this with one friend and plan on reading it to others. Below is the minute !!!!!!

Unbelievers Can Spot Inconsistencies In Our Lives

Then the sailors said to each other, "Come, let us cast lots to find out who is responsible for this calamity." They cast lots and the lot fell on Jonah. Jonah 1:7

Often unbelievers can see more clearly the discrepancies in our lives than we can. Although they may not hold our values or belief system, they can sense when our behavior is out of sync with our profession of faith. When Jonah was discovered to be running from God, the pagan sailors were terrified. "What have you done?" they demanded. It was no doubt superstition that caused them to ask the question. Due to the terrible storm at sea the sailors could see that Jonah had infuriated his God. But from God's perspective, Jonah had seriously compromised his faith in front of pagans and unbelievers.

We too need to show great care in how we live in front of unbelievers. Though they may not share our faith or values, they nonetheless know hypocrisy when they see it. Let's resolve to love and treat one another in our marriages in a way that validates our profession of faith in Christ. Let's conduct our business dealings in a way that glorifies God. Above all, let's be ready to admit when our actions or words have been inconsistent with our faith. If unbelievers can spot hypocrisy, they can also spot genuine integrity and humility. Let's verify the truth of what we believe by how we behave.

Robert and Cheryl Moeller, authors of Marriage Minutes.

Return to Love

2008-10-19T15:44:00.006-05:00

Today, I was interested in adding this book to my must read collection, but it was unavailable. A student had checked it out. Now, I am even more interested in reading it. I know that it is a good read. I especially like the synopsis of the book from Barnes and Noble website.

Williamson reveals how we each can become a miracle worker by accepting God and by the expression of love in our daily lives. Whether our psychic pain is in the area of relationships, career, or health, she shows us how love is a potent force, the key to inner peace, and how by practicing love we can make our own lives more fulfilling while creating a more peaceful and loving world for our children.

And, there are two movies that I have seen and enjoyed very much which used her writing about "our greatest fear". They were Coach Carter and Akeelah and the Bee.

Marianne Williamson is an internationally acclaimed author and lecturer. She has published eight books, four of which -- including the megabestseller A Return to Love -- have been #1 New York Times bestsellers. Her titles include Illuminata, Everyday Grace, A Woman's Worth, and Healing the Soul of America.

What's Your Deepest Fear?

2008-10-19T15:18:00.008-05:00

Our Greatest Fear
Author: Marianne Williamson

Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

Watch this clip from the movie, Coach Carter!

Relationship Assessment Test

2008-10-09T19:22:00.004-05:00

CLICK ON THE TITLE TO TAKE THE TEST!!!

According to the website, the purpose of this assessment is to help you see how your evidence of connection compares to your level of clarity about your relationship. This assessment is structured to be helpful both for those who have seen a relationship grow over a period of time but want to know if it's moving toward a more formal romantic relationship and those who want to know if their formal romantic relationship is moving toward marriage.

The Bend in the Road

2008-10-08T18:57:00.002-05:00

When we feel we have nothing left to give
And we are sure that the song has ended,
When our day seems over and the shadows fall
And the darkness of night has descended,
Where can we go to find the strength
To valiantly keep on trying?
Where can we find the hand that will dry
The tears that the heart is crying?

There's but one place to go and that is to God,
And, dropping all pretense and pride,
We can pour out our problems without restraint
And gain strength with Him at our side.
And together we stand at life's crossroads
And view what we think is the end,
But God has a much bigger vision,
And He tells us it's only a bend.

For the road goes on and is smoother,
And the pause in the song is a rest,
And the part that's unsung and unfinished
Is the sweetest and richest and best.
So rest and relax and grow stronger,
Let go and let God share your load.
Your work is not finished or ended,
You've just come to a bend in the road.

A poem of encouragement by Helen Steiner Rice.

A Story of Cancer and Comfort

2008-10-08T18:30:00.011-05:00

This broadcast brought tears to my eyes, this morning. Listen to the broadcast by clicking on the title and click on "listen now". The Rev. David Jeremiah describes how his faith in God sustained him during two bouts with cancer. He also explains why he believes God allows suffering, and offers encouragement to those facing trying circumstances. (Part 1 of 2) This was very comforting to me because I have gone through some circumstances that were difficult. Yet, after hearing this, I am even more convinced that suffering builds character and draws you closer to God.

Related Article , "Suffering Brings Wisdom," Perspective by Randall Murphree

“I want to tell you, you can learn a lot from being sick,” said Dr. David Jeremiah. The popular author, speaker and media teacher made that observation to a national group of Christian journalists gathered May 6 - 10 in San Diego for the annual convention of the Evangelical Press Association.

Participants included writers and editors from Charisma, Christianity Today, Moody, AFA Journal and scores of other Christian periodicals.

Dr. Jeremiah is qualified to address the issue of suffering and sickness. Pastor of Shadow Mountain Community Church, El Cajon, Calif., he was diagnosed with lymphoma in 1994. After treatment, he thought he had weathered the storm, but in 1998 the cancer recurred. Surgery removed a nodule from his neck, and in early 1999 he had a stem cell transplant.

“It was the darkest night of my soul, a nightmare with no hope of waking,” he wrote in his latest book, A Bend in the Road: Caves In Experiencing God When Your World (Word, 2000). The book is a chronicle of his battle with cancer and the life lessons God taught him in the process. Today, he again has hope and lives in remission.

Jeremiah told the journalists he has learned many things through his experience with cancer, including the power of prayer, the persistence of Satan and the perspective of attitude. He says studies show that attitude can be as important as medical treatment for a cancer patient. “Attitude comes from your personal walk with the Lord,” he said.

Dr. Jeremiah’s "Turning Point" program is aired internationally on more than a thousand TV and radio stations. In addition to serving as pastor at Shadow Mountain, he is chancellor of Christian Heritage College in El Cajon and has written 12 books, including Jesus’ Final Warning and The Handwriting on the Wall.

Randall Murphree is a freelance writer and editor of American Family Association Journal in Tupelo, Miss.

Bott Radio: 640 AM Station

2008-10-07T17:32:00.010-05:00

If you are not familiar with Bott Radio, you need to invest some time and listen to some of the programs. They are so insightful...covering everything imaginable with the Word of God as the authority on the issue.

I must admit that Familylife is one of my favorite links. And, I am going to recommend you to read any books that are on the programs since they are written by God-fearing men and women.

This morning, I heard a great program on Bott Radio called Hazard of the Road. It was about the danger that a married couple faced when Sam, the husband, traveled alot for his business, spending alot of time in hotel rooms. He had much sexual temptation and it became impossible to resist. Finally, he gave in to it. The broadcast features him and his wife, Toni, talking frankly with Dennis Rainey about his struggle with pornography and the moral failure that turned out to be his wake-up call.

Things that were discussed in the program and worth mentioning to YOU:

Sam was a CHRISTIAN.
He REASONED that since he was away from home and his wife, why not sin since no one would know.
Couples need to agree about the time that they will spend apart to avoid SEXUAL TEMPTATION.
The relationship, the covenant, in marriage has got to supersede ALL OTHER THINGS.
The D word might come across your mind but do not make it an OPTION.
The wife, Toni did not get involve with another man during this time. Yet, she precoccupied her mind and time by decorating her home and the result was still a struggling marriage. Do not avoid the issue CONFRONT IT.
Men beware in hotel rooms because cable is accessible and you are ALONE.

There is much more! Listen to the broadcast for yourself...click listen on this link http://www.familylife.com/site/apps/nlnet/content3.aspx?c=dnJHKLNnFoG&b=3789887&ct=6018859

Sam Gallucci is senior pastor at The Harbor Community Church in Ventura California, and is president of CRM Associates, a management consulting firm. He is the author of Road Warrior. Sam and his wife, Toni help lead men out of sexual sin, and offer hope and healing to women who have been wounded in the aftermath. Sam and Toni have been married for more than 25 years, and have three sons.

GABE in Washington

2008-10-05T14:50:00.000-05:00

Gabe's Day as President!!!!!

Eva, Gabe's mom wrote to me about their experience in Washington, last week.

It was so encouraging to see Gabe's eyes light up
when he saw or heard something familiar like when we were on a tour of
Washington and various excerpts from famous speeches were played - MLK's I Have
a Dream speech, JFK, "Ask not what your country can do for you...." But I have
to say he also enjoyed the "city" life with the traffic, buses, taxi's, metro,
etc. and chasing the pigeons on the lawn of the Natural Museum of History and
taking a dip in the reflecting pool (much to my dismay!) I can hear you now,
"that's Gabe!" And, of course, he brought back a suitcase FULL of new
books! He also got to meet R.L Stine. That was a big thing for him.

The Love Dare Book That Will Fireproof Your Marriage

2008-10-05T14:42:00.001-05:00

The Love Dare from Mike Stecker on Vimeo.

After the movie, last Saturday night, a pastor was giving out flyers as we were leaving stating that if you visited their church on Sunday that you could have a FREE copy of the Love Dare. So, my friend and I went on Sunday to get a copy. I could not pass up that give-away. It is so much more than a book to me.

According to a website, this daily devotional steers you through the fiery challenge of developing a strong, committed marriage in a world that threatens to burn it to the ground. The Love Dare personally leads you through daily devotionals, records your thoughts and experiences, and ends each day daring you to perform a simple act of love for your spouse.

40/40 PRAYER VIGIL

2008-10-02T19:12:00.002-05:00

The 40/40 Prayer Vigil consists of 40 days of prayer from September 24 to November 2, 2008, culminating in 40 hours of around the clock intercession during the last 3 days of the Vigil. The Vigil focuses first on personal spiritual revival. It then covers an expanding circle of prayer concerns, from the church to the nation.

CLICK ON THE TITLE TO VIEW THE SITE!

10 Things I Want My Husband To Know...and How To Tell HIm

2008-10-02T17:57:00.001-05:00

"10 Things I Want My Husband to Know... and How to Tell Him," is an excellent book. Every chapter will hold your attention. It has pertinent information that wives need to know and then DO. Written by Annie Chapman, a wife of 30 years who uses the scriptures and the lives of other women to provide insight on your OWN marriage. There were several chapters that really touched me personally. The following were:

Chapter 9 : I Respect Him. This is a BIG issue to men. In fact, this chapter is written to the point that you WILL understand how important RESPECT is to a man.

In the book, a brief letter from a husband to his wife clearly states what RESPECT is to him. He writes, the way you have accepted and loved my family and my heritage, the unwavering devotion you have shown to caring for our two children( and now their mates and kids), how you tend to our home and house, and the sweat you have invested in caring for the material things we steward, are signs of your respect for me. Your encouraging comments about the work I do and how you faithfully stand beside me as a co-laborer, your acceptance of the play I enjoy, your carefulness with money and the way you share my disdain for debt-these things tell me you respect me.

Chapter 3: I Am Sexually Available to Him. Wives should not withhold sex from their spouses. It is a commandment from the Word.
Chapter 7: I Will Support and Embrace His Hobbies and Friends. Wives need to support their husbands' hobbies and friends. It is important to men for their wives to spend time with them while they are engaging in their hobbies. It is also important for wives to let their husbands have some solitude. Men need time apart from work and their wives.

It reminds me of my ex-husband wanting me to watch TV with him, ride the four-wheeler with him and other outside activities. But, I was not interested. After reading all this information, I NOW understand the importance of doing this with him. It would have made him feel valued. Also, we need to encourage our husbands to develop and seek friendship with godly men who love God.

Chapter 5: I Admire the Way He Provides for Our Family: The culprit that brings most couples to a divorce is MONEY. Therefore, make an effort as a wife to support your husband in "making a life" and not in making a killing". Help him in any way possible to save money, cut expenses and create financial freedom for the future. Years ago, when a couple purchased a home, it was their intentions to live in that home until they died. However, today, couples are calling them "starter homes". Families have multiple cars and garages. Some spend thousands of dollars on plastic utensils instead of doing the dishes. Not to mention, the cost of eating out. Wives tell your husbands that you appreciate them. And, please work together to control debt. This will alleviate some overspending, emotionally and spiritually neglect. What an insightful chapter this is!

Chapter 2: I Acknowledge Him as the God-Appointed Leader of Our Family: I thoroughly enjoyed this chapter because it discussed submission. Submission is something that a lot of women have a problem with. Yet, this chapter examines that submitting to your husband is actually submitting to God. It means to "serve with a positive motive for the Lord's sake, to voluntarily serve out of a willing spirit. The wife's purpose is to be a helper to her husband. They are to work together as one.

A wonderful illustration in the book is of two horses. The winner horse pulled 4,500 pounds. The first runner-up pulled 4,000 pounds. But when harnessed together the two horses pulled over 12,000 pounds. In the same way, husband and wife are much stronger, more able,and much more profitable when they pull together. It is completely opposite of being enslaved or dominated. It creates order in the family. The order designated by God is not about value or worth but order. As every well-functioning organization has to have a chain of command so does the family.

Make an opportunity to read this book and see how life-changing this will be in your life!

The Family That Preys

2008-09-28T15:09:00.000-05:00

Could you be disrespecting your husband and not know it? Well, very often men feel rejected instead of respected. According to the book, "10 things I Want My Husband To Know...and How to Tell Him," several hundred women were questioned, "What is one thing you do that makes your husband angry?" Their responses were the following:

He hates it when I comment and give an opinion before I know all the facts.
He gets upset when I make him account for money he spends.
My husband hates to go to bed alone. I like to stay up late. This is a source of conflict between us.
He hates it when I give all my effort at work and then neglect the house and bills. He feels like I care more about everyone else than I care about him.
He gets angry when I withhold sex.
He gets upset when I try to control everything, even down to the smallest detail.

In other words, some of these women were DISRESPECTING their husband and not knowing. And, no woman who loves her husband would intentionally do this since they are one flesh. And, we love ourselves.

This bring me to the movie, "The Family That Preys". I saw it twice last week because I enjoyed it so much. Yet, the men that I spoke to about the movie previously to me going did not think it was ALL THAT. I wondered why they said that since Tyler Perry 's movies are always EXCELLENT. All his movies convey powerful messages to the audience that need to be heard. Well, after seeing the movie, I knew why the men felt that way.

In this movie, the husband was disrespected by his wife. The husband was a passive, hard working, blue collar worker who loved and trusted his wife. His wife was a college graduate who was very selfish and wanted more wealth than her husband had to offer at that time. So, her longing for more led her to being unhappy at home which led her to committing infidelity. On every Wednesday, she met her lover in a luxurious hotel room. Hoping that he would leave his wife but she got a shocker at the end of the movie. And, the child who was conceived during the marriage was not her husband but her lover. Can you imagine how the husband felt to find this out? Also, she had a secret bank account which had over $250,000 in it...not willing to share. Yet, knowing that her husband was interested in starting a business for the family. She did not allow him to show affection toward her. It just continued...the DISRESPECT throughout the movie. She was tearing her husband down despite him trying to love her and provide for her. She even told him that he was incapable of achieving his dream like owning his own construction business like he desired.

In the movie, there were many scenes that showed disrespect and that bothered me greatly like the wife telling the husband not to talk to anyone at the company's party because she did not want to be embarrassed. Or, the scene where she told him that he could never be like her lover because he was not smart, he stuttered, and did not have a degree. These scenes created many sounds of disbelief among the audience because it was shocking to hear and see-THE TOTAL DISRESPECT that the wife had for the husband.

According to the book, 10 Things I Want My Husband to Know...and How to Tell Him, by Annie Chapman, in one national study, four hundred men were given a choice between going through two different negative experiences. If they were forced to choose one of the following, which would they prefer to endure?

To be left alone and unloved in the world
To feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone

Seventy-four percent of these men said that if they were forced to choose, they would prefer being alone and unloved in the world. For these men, the greater negative experience for their souls to endure would be to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone

Bottom Line: A Man Want To Be Respected and A Wife Should Do This

FIREPROOF YOUR MARRIAGE

2008-09-22T17:45:00.000-05:00

OPENING ON FRIDAY AT YOUR LOCAL THEATER!

I CAN NOT WAIT TO SEE IT.

FIREPROOF is the third feature film from Sherwood Pictures the creators of FACING THE GIANTS and FLYWHEEL. With hope-filled, heartfelt storytelling, the movie making ministry of Sherwood Baptist Church continues to touch the world from Albany, Georgia.

Storyline:

At work, inside burning buildings, Capt. Caleb Holt lives by the old fire fighter's adage: Never leave your partner behind. At home, in the cooling embers of his marriage, he lives by his own rules.

Growing up, Catherine Holt always dreamed of marrying a loving, brave firefighter...just like her daddy. Now, after seven years of marriage, Catherine wonders when she stopped being "good enough" for her husband. Regular arguments over jobs, finances, housework, and outside interests have readied them both to move on to something with more sparks.

As the couple prepares to enter divorce proceedings, Caleb's father challenges his son to commit to a 40-day experiment: "The Love Dare." Wondering if it's even worth the effort, Caleb agrees-for his father's sake more than for his marriage. When Caleb discovers the book's daily challenges are tied into his parents' new found faith, his already limited interest is further dampened.

While trying to stay true to his promise, Caleb becomes frustrated time and again. He finally asks his father, "How am I supposed to show love to somebody who constantly rejects me?" When his father explains that this is the love Christ shows to us, Caleb makes a life-changing commitment to love God. And ith God's help he begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife.

But is it too late to fireproof his marriage? His job is to rescue others. Now Caleb Holt is ready to face his toughest job ever...rescuing his wife's heart.

DO YOU KNOW THE FIVE LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION?

2008-09-22T17:22:00.001-05:00

Last year, I attended the two-day "I Promise" marriage seminar with Dr. Gary Smalley in Memphis and enjoyed it thoroughly. I felt sort of uncomfortable going since I was single but after listening to what he had to say the first night, I knew that I needed to be there. This was something that I could apply in my life immediately with my family and friends. What raised my level of interest was his discussion about the five levels of communication. I had never heard this before. It revealed to me that I did not go through these levels with my spouse. We lacked much in the communication area. You think you know someone because you dated for years before you married. But, there is more to a marriage than the wedding day, living together, having children, going to social events together, etc. Communication is required to keep intimacy in the relationship. According to the book, Secrets to Lasting Love, the five levels of intimate communication are the following:

Sharing cliches with each other: This is surface talk. You are engaging in almost meaningless chatter. For instance, "Hey, how are you, how are you doing?", asks one spouse, "Okay, great, no problem," replies the other. Guess what, you can do this with a stranger so make an effort to do more in your relationship.

Sharing facts with each other: You are talking about the weather, the office, what's going on with your friends. This is safe talk because it is not requiring no deep breathing, thinking, or feeling. Guess what, you can do this with a stranger so make an effort to do more in your relationship.

Sharing opinions with each other. This includes discussing individual opinions, concerns, and expectations. This is where conflict occurs because of the differences in opinions, concerns, and expectations. The conflict normally comes from the differences in the upbringing. At this level, the relationship is vulnerable.

Did you know that most couples only get to the second and third level of communication?

Sharing your deepest and truest feeling with each other. At this level, you help each other feel safe to share your deepest thoughts and emotions. There is an understanding between the two of you that efforts will be made to listen to one another.

Sharing your most important relational NEEDS with each other. This is the deepest level of communication that can be achieved in a relationship. You feel safe with this person to reveal your unique needs with each other.

This information was profound to ME. It helped me get through some of my troubled friendships. So, regardless if it is a romantic or no-romantic relationship, the way to get to know someone is through communication. Communicators need to be open and honest with one another...not afraid to reveal who they are to each other.

WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

2008-09-21T15:09:00.000-05:00

Sanguine? Melancholy? Phlegmatic? Choleric?

Do these names mean anything to you? These are personality types that we all have. I never knew which one I was until reading this book. Well, actually, a friend had been discussing this with me because of our constant disagreements and it was completely foreign to me. This is what led to the reading of this book. The result was that I was amazed to find out so much about myself and others. It revealed to me why I am so bothered by some people and why I just get along so well with others.

Moreover, this book revealed to me how to deal with other personalities successfully. And, how I would be as a parent, co-worker, friend, and even my EMOTIONS based upon my personality. Also, I liked the examples of problems that were given and then the solutions on how to handle them. And, these solutions were great. In my opinion, they created respect and boundaries between the parties.

The self-test in this book revealed that I am a Choleric/Phlegmatic person. I agree because for years I have been goal-oriented and not easily discouraged. And, I am a very peaceful, easygoing and relaxed person.

However, I must admit though that I have become balanced in some areas that does not characterize a Phlegmatic person. Growing into a mature person, I have revolved into a more balanced person which reflects some characteristics of a Melancholy and a Sanguine as well. For instance, I am making efforts to keep home in good order (cleaning), sacrifice own will for others , have a sense of humor and be cheerful despite whatever.

Take the on-line test and find out what your personality type is!

http://www.ocampo.net/l2dae2dao/personality/personality.htm

My Friend, The Kitten

2008-09-15T18:48:00.000-05:00

IN LOVING MEMORY OF THE KITTEN

Free Movies With A Library Card

2008-09-14T18:00:00.000-05:00

With the increasing cost of gas and the cost of living, you can get a library card and save yourself some money. Why go to Barnes & Noble or Movie Gallery for books and movies when you can check them out at the library for FREE. Visit your local library for more details.

Additionally, September is Library Card Sign-Up Month - a time when the American Library Association and libraries across the country remind parents that the most important school supply of all is @ your library®--it's your library card. (ala.org)

If you and your child do not have a library card, please get one. It will be the best piece of plastic to have in your wallet.

It's Perfectly Normal & Nappy Hair

2008-09-14T16:58:00.000-05:00

The book, "It's Perfectly Normal,"written by Robie Harris is on the challenged book list of 2007. I knew that this book would offend some parents because of the pictures. And, this is exactly what happened, a parent challenged the book being in the library. However, I thought that this book was appropriate for adolescents. I feel that children need to be aware of the changes that their bodies go through. The book was ONLY a guide to help parents educate their children about growing into adults. And, what better place than a library to house the information for free.

After the review of the book by library staff, the book was put in the branch manager's office. And, at some branches it was reclassified from juvenile to adult.

According to Carol Hurst's Children Literature website, this book goes where others fear to tread, explaining things like sexual desire, having intercourse, pimples, bras, jock straps, as well as the process of reproduction. The touch is light but informative as it talks about things pre-adolescents and adolescents want to and need to know and it does it with humor and kindness and without cringing. http://www.carolhurst.com/

However, below is an interesting link that opposed the book: http://www.cwfa.org/articles/6122/CFI/family/index.htm

Another book that received negative publicity was "Nappy Hair," by Carolivia Herron . As I flipped through the pages of this book, I knew it would offend someone as well. Personally, I did not take offense to the book. This is our culture and I am not ashamed of it. However, the book received a lot of controversy when a white teacher read this book to her predominantly African-American and Hispanic 3rd grade class. It caused her to transfer to another school.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR AND BOOK: Carolivia Herron is an African-American former English professor and the author of the children's book "Nappy Hair." The book tells the story of an African-American family extolling the strength and wonder of young Brenda's natural hair while affirming her beauty and culture. Uncle Mordecai is the principal character who praises Brenda, and Herron has written the following article from the perspective of what Uncle Mordecai would say about the sullying of the word "nappy."(CNN.com)

http://edition.cnn.com/interactive/us/0704/slideshow.herron.reading/frameset.exclude.html

The Most Frequently Challenged Books of 2007

2008-09-14T16:51:00.000-05:00

According to ala.org, the ALA Office for Intellectual Freedom received a total of 420 challenges last year. A challenge is defined as a formal, written complaint, filed with a library or school requesting that materials be removed because of content or appropriateness. According to Judith F. Krug, director of the Office for Intellectual Freedom, the number of challenges reflects only incidents reported, and for each reported, four or five remain unreported.

The “10 Most Challenged Books of 2007” reflect a range of themes, and consist of the following titles:

1) “And Tango Makes Three,” by Justin Richardson/Peter Parnell

Reasons: Anti-Ethnic, Sexism, Homosexuality, Anti-Family, Religious Viewpoint, Unsuited to Age Group

2) The Chocolate War,” by Robert Cormier

Reasons: Sexually Explicit, Offensive Language, Violence

3) “Olive’s Ocean,” by Kevin Henkes

Reasons: Sexually Explicit and Offensive Language

4) “The Golden Compass,” by Philip Pullman

Reasons: Religious Viewpoint

5) “The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn,” by Mark Twain

Reasons: Racism

6) “The Color Purple,” by Alice Walker

Reasons: Homosexuality, Sexually Explicit, Offensive Language,

7) "TTYL,” by Lauren Myracle

Reasons: Sexually Explicit, Offensive Language, Unsuited to Age Group

8) "I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,” by Maya Angelou

Reasons: Sexually Explicit

9) “It’s Perfectly Normal,” by Robie Harris

Reasons: Sex Education, Sexually Explicit

10) "The Perks of Being A Wallflower,” by Stephen Chbosky

Reasons: Homosexuality, Sexually Explicit, Offensive Language, Unsuited to Age Group

Off the list this year, are two books by author Toni Morrison. "The Bluest Eye" and "Beloved," both challenged for sexual content and offensive language.

BANNED BOOK WEEK, Sept 29-Oct 6

2008-09-12T10:57:00.000-05:00

Banned Books Week, an annual celebration of the freedom to read, is observed the last week of September. Each year, librarians, booksellers, teachers and countless others take this opportunity to highlight the importance of intellectual freedom and remind us not to take this precious democratic freedom for granted. (ala.org)

Support Banned Books Week

http://ala.org/ala/oif/bannedbooksweek/supportingbbw/supportingbbw.cfm

A NEW ERA OF LEARNING: DISTANCE LEARNING

2008-09-09T19:30:00.000-05:00

I am a strong supporter of distance learning. I took some classes at NWCC for two years and the remaining classes online through Phoenix. It was a success for me and many others. In fact, it has become the new era of learning for colleges including NW CC. According to NWCC, they are proud of this year's enrollment in the Elearning Division. This year there are a total of 1,860 students taking at least one online course. Of those students 439 are taking classes entirely online.

Distance learning allowed me to go to school and finish otherwise I would still be attending classes. For many adults, this might be the only option to attend school and WORK. I am also aware of the many negative comments that people have made about online classes. But, I challenge some of YOU to take a class and see how easy it really is especially through Phoenix.

Some students do not take online classes seriously because of the false belief that it is easy. Some people assume that you are not doing your own homework but I can assure you that no one wanted to do my assignments through Phoenix. You had to do the research and much reading to complete the projects. And, it does not matter whether you are in the traditional classroom setting or not...people will find a way to be cheaters if they want to. But, on a positive side, everyday there are thousands of students successfully taking online classes and earning their degrees.

Check out this link http://oll.temple.edu/students/interview.htm about a visually impaired student who earned a degree because of this new era of learning. Basically, this new era of learning creates OPPORTUNITIES for many and it should be encouraged if this will allow others to achieve their dreams. Below are some books for students who are considering taking some online classes and books for educators who need some techniques on how to manage an online environment with success.

E-LEARNING BOOKS FOR EDUCATORS AND STUDENTS

FAMILY LIFE'S WEEKEND TO REMEMBER CONFERENCE

2008-09-08T18:13:00.000-05:00

I ENJOYED it last year and it is here in Memphis again, this November. I recommend this conference to married couples and SINGLES. Yep, even a single person can learn alot about marriage at the conference. Listen up! This is a great way to prepare yourself for the ups and downs that will come your way since Satan is always opposing God. And, marriage is an institution of God so it will be under opposition. I promise that if you attend this conference, it will be a life changing experience for YOU.

I learned so much about marriage. I even learned that I was at fault in some areas in my marriage. It was hard for me to accept at first since my husband was the one committing infidelity. But, we all make contributions in our marriages that are positive and negative....DEAL WITH IT. No one is perfect and this is exactly some of the issues that were discussed. Marriage should represent God and this means being holy. Yet, so many of us do not realize that marriage is not about us. All our dealings in life is to glorify God's name and to give honor and praise to him NOT OURSELVES. Surprise, even, if you are married to an unbeliever, there is hope for you as well. Remember, with God all things are possible.

What I enjoyed the most was listening to couples talk about their mistakes and how they overcame them by allowing GOD to actively be in their lives...becoming doers and not just hearers of the Word. This conference is nothing better than a testimony for struggling couples to see that their marriage has hope and to be inspired. And, a B-12 shot for couples who want to continue having a successful marriage.

Here is the schedule for this year with great topics.

Friday
5:00pm
• Registration begins
7:00-9:30
• Why Marriages Fail• Can We Talk?

Saturday
8:30-12:30
• Unlocking the Mystery of Marriage• From How to Wow• What Every Marriage Needs
2:00-4:45
• Rules of Engagement• Marriage After Dark
Evening
DATE NIGHT

Sunday
9:00-12:30
• Woman to Woman• Man to Man• How Marriages Thrive• Putting a Stake in the Ground

Official website: http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3082787/ I will share more with you about Familylife in the future. They offer daily broadcasting programs as well.

GREAT BOOKS ON FAMILY AND MARRIAGE LIFE WILL BE ON SALE AT THE CONFERENCE AS WELL

The Last Lecture

2008-09-03T18:30:00.000-05:00

How would you feel if your doctor calmly explained to you that he would no longer be working to save your life but only to extend your time on earth? This was the situation for Randy Pausch and his family. He had pancreatic cancer which has the highest morality rate of any cancer. However, he did not allow his illness to rob him of enjoying his last days. He lived life to the fullest AND he gave his last lecture which was AWESOME...based on achieving his childhood dreams.

What was inspiring about this book to me was that Randy saw the positive in all negatives. He took his learned experiences and shared them with us. He offered great advice for us to use in our life whether at work or at home. The book contains chapters on some of these inspiring messages:

People are more important than things
Brick walls are there for a reason. They give us a chance to show how badly we want something.
In marriage, there will be dents and gashes and it's OK. Not everything needs to be fixed.
No matter how bad things are, you can always make things worse. At the same time, it is often within your power to make them better.
Focus on each day rather than the negative things down the road. It's not helpful if we spend every day dreading tomorrow.
Don't obsess over what people think because it decreases your effectiveness of living
Look for the best in people

The book just continued with great cliches and stories which will surely capture your heart. Randy Pausch will be missed.

God Thinks You're Wonderful

2008-09-02T18:59:00.000-05:00

This is a very inspirational book. It is a perfect gift for someone special in your life. It was given to me by my friend, Raymond. This book reminds YOU just how wonderful God thinks you are. It does not matter what you think of yourself or how others see you...what really matters is how God sees you. And God loves you despite your imperfections and weaknesses. The book is priceless because it offers many words of affirmations like the following throughout the book:

If God had a wallet, your photo would be in it.

If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.

You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted, and lovingly positioned to this earth by the Master Craftsman, God.

The book just continues with reassuring words that God loves you. So, regardless of what is going on in your life, remember that God Thinks You're Wonderful.

LIVE LIKE YOU WERE DYING

2008-08-28T18:32:00.000-05:00

Do something that makes your heart beat faster every day. Give the dog a bite of your sandwich. Play air guitar-rock 'n roll air guitar. Don't underestimate the power of a crayon. Wear pajamas out for the evening. Forgive yourself. Drive with the top down. Radio up. Laughing with friends.

I received this book as a gift from my girlfriend, Linda, right before I graduated. It was meant to encourage me to start living AGAIN. I am sure that many of you have been there...gone through a separation, gone through a reconciliation, gone through a divorce and the drama continued. In fact, I can relate to the metaphor in the book about too many stop signs. It appeared like every road that I traveled, I saw a STOP sign.

For three years, life slipped passed me. I worked two jobs to support myself and went to school full-time to create financial stability for myself. There were times that months went by before I saw my parents. It was not a good situation. I do not wish this on anyone but I know that many of YOU understand me because of your personal experiences.

Readers, I am happy to report that today, I take time to enjoy life. I am not a thrill seeker but I enjoy life. I even appreciate the struggles that I have gone through because they built character within me. Also, I was given an opportunity to see if I trusted in GOD and believed his Word.

TODAY, I LIVE LIKE I AM DYING because I understand

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures;he leads me beside still waters;
he restores my soul.he leads me in right paths for his name's sake.
Even though I walk through the darkest valley,I fear no evil;for you are with me; your rod and your staff — they comfort me.- Psalm 23: 1-4

Try the book, it includes a CD single and is foreword by Tim McGraw!!!!! Tim McGraw is a country singer that I enjoy listening to. He and his wife, Faith Hill are also admired by many because of their commitment to each other. Even in marriage, live like you are dying because TOMORROW isn't PROMISED.

BEAUTY IS WITHIN!!!!

2008-08-28T17:30:00.000-05:00

I LOVE this movie. I saw it last week with my friend. How sad that outer beauty is such an issue with MOST men and SOME women. Yep, that right....men are visible beings and women are relational beings. What happen to looking for character and a person who loves Christ?

This is a great movie to watch because you get to see of your own prejudices about dating. We all have preferences. However, do we look in the mirror at ourselves and do we measure up to what we are looking for? As Dr.Henry Cloud, a christian author states in his book, " HOW TO GET A DATE WORTH KEEPING, " while you might be attracted to someone's "outsides," what you will experience over the long haul is their "insides." I could not have said this any better.

SYNOPSIS: This movie, Shallow Hal, is about a shallow man who falls in love with a 300 pound woman because of her "inner beauty". Following the advice of his dying father, Hal dates only women who are physically beautiful. One day, however, he runs into self-help guru Tony Robbins, who hypnotizes him into recognizing only the inner beauty of women. Hal thereafter meets Rosemary, a grossly obese woman whom only he can see as a vision of loveliness. But will their relationship survive when Hal's equally shallow friend undoes the hypnosis? ( IMDB.com)

INTERVAL WALKING

2008-08-27T18:46:00.000-05:00

If you have a problem with losing weight, give this suggestion a try. It is mainly for those who want to lose 20 pounds or less. It's simple to do. Just start off walking at a slow pace for about three minutes then walk briskly for one minute. Do this repeatedly for about 20 to 30 minutes while increasing your pace. Walking at a moderate to high intensity pace is INTERVAL WALKING.

I saw this program this summer on CNN and shared it with a friend. Now, he is doing interval walking and he has lost about 10 pounds in a month. Not to mention, that he is eating healthier and his energy level is much higher.

TIP from PREVENTION magazine :

Walking, running, bicycling are all great aerobic exercises that burn fat. But if you want to boost your calorie burn all day long, experts agree that training with weights two to three times a week for 20 to 30 minutes .

A YOUNG READER WITH HIGH POTENTIAL

2008-08-26T19:21:00.000-05:00

So vividly, I can remember Gabe from the public library. He was that little boy that checked out tons of books every week. A day rarely went by and he was not seen at the library. He was an avid reader which is something that I enjoyed seeing from a young student. If there were any new books at the library, he was sure to find them. In fact, take them all if his mother allowed it. I am sure that he read all of our paperback juvenile books on Captain Underpants and then some from other First Regional Branches.

Any programs that we had at the library...it was not a question of whether Gabe was attending. He was faithful. He particpated as much as possible...winning barnes and nobles certificates and much more.

This week, his mom, Eva informed me that she is taking him to Washington, DC next month to the National Book Festival.

GABE'S POEM

2008-08-26T19:16:00.000-05:00

Here's a little poem he wrote the other day about his cat, Felix...

Felix's Thoughts

Have you ever sat and wondered
While looking in Felix's eyes
What could he be thinking?

It wouldn't be a surprise.
He's probably thinking about birds and butterflies!
I know he's thinking about lizards
I see it in his eyes
No scientist could see
even with all his science stuff
how Felix knows so much more than we think he knows.
So as I sit here looking in his eyes
What he's probably thinking is no surprise!

TALKING INTIMATELY TO GOD

2008-08-25T17:33:00.000-05:00

At one point in my life, I found myself praying to God when ONLY things were not going well. It seemed like I constantly was in the peaks and valleys. There was no letup. I needed to talk to God about what was going on. I needed him to release me of my struggles. Sad to say, it was all about ME. I failed to pray in the spirit and according to HIS WILL . This book, "How to Pray," by R.A. Torrey was on the shelf at LifeWay Christian Store waiting for me. It revealed a lot to me about praying.

My realization mostly came after I started to feed myself the word more and allowed God's spirit to re-direct my thinking. Prayer was not about my NEEDS and WANTS. Prayer is about the grace and mercy that God has shown to us. It is a time to talk intimately to your Father about how thankful you are for him. Give him GLORY. Give him PRAISE.

Just like our earthly father want to hear from us that we love him so does God. Take some time out of your busy schedule and talk intimately to God.

UNIVERSITY OF WISCONSIN-MILWAUKEE

2008-08-24T17:35:00.001-05:00

GOOD NEWS!!!!!

This week, I received a letter stating that I was accepted into the library science graduate program at the University of Wisconsin. I will start the Spring of 2009. I will be done completely online. I am so excited because it has been a long journey to this point. I finally got my bachelors which took forever. But, thank God for holding on to me and for giving me the strength to push through.

http://www4.uwm.edu/

HEALTHY EATING!

2008-08-24T15:05:00.000-05:00

Over the last 5 years, I have gained 30 lbs because I eat what I want. I joined the gym in Senatobia but I am not consistent with going. Last semester, I was going every night after work and I could see the change in my body and I had more energy. I was using the treadmill for 45 minutes and doing about 20 minutes of toning and strengthening. But, something happened and I got off that routine. I have to do something because I cannot wear over half of my wardrobe in my closet. You would think that this would motivate me but I am still slowly gaining weight. Last week, I started again trying to eat better. I read somewhere that 90% of weight loss is changing your eating habit and only 10% is exercising. However, I will continue exercising because I enjoy riding my bike. Hopefully, I will continue to shed off these hips and thighs.

Two weeks again, I was invited to a Saladmasters party. I was suprised with how good the food tasted. The cookware is unbelieveably. We had fried chicken which was not cooked in oil. We had a delicious cake which was cooked on the stovetop . We had cabbage, corn and carrots which were all cooked together and the flavor was excellent. The cookware kept all the nurtrients of the food. I wished that I had those thousands of dollars to purchase a set for my mom. She would enjoy it very much.

DECEPTIVELY DELICIOUS EATING FOR KIDS!!

2008-08-24T14:25:00.001-05:00

CHOCOLATE CAKE with Beets
CHICKEN NUGGETS with Broccoli
MASHED POTATOES with Cauliflower
BROWNIES with Spinach & Carrot

This summer, I saw a young lady on the Oprah show discussing how to get kids to eat VEGGIES without a fuss. This caught my eye and I listened. On the show, she visited a group of students at a school and feed them mac and cheese with butternut squash and they LOVED it. They could not taste the veggies at all. IT WORKED!!!!

Jessica Seinfeld, wife of comedian Jerry Seinfeld and mother of three young children, does this for her family. She puree vegetables and fruits into her meals. The kids are enjoying it without any whining. The pureeing process is simple, she says. First, you peel and chop your vegetable. Then, you toss it into the steamer. Once it's steamed and softened, you throw it in the food processor to puree. Then, when she's ready to cook, she snips off a corner of the plastic bag and adds some into everything she makes.

http://www.oprah.com/slideshow/oprahshow/slideshow1_ss_food_20071008_350

READING-JUST GOT EASIER!

2008-08-21T20:37:00.000-05:00

I have always enjoyed reading but some books are more difficult to read than others. Books in literature are the most challenging. Yet, this book written by Susan Wise Bauer, a professor at the College of Williams and Mary in Virginia, presents some strategies to get through any genre. She shares the art of reading.

Susan boldy expresses the view that the inability to read through literature is not about mental indequacy but perhaps a lack of knowing how to prepare for the book.

What I am enjoying the most about this book is the annotated list. This is giving me an opportunity to read some books that I otherwise would not.

"A well-trained mind is the result of application, not inborn genius."

THIS IS A MUST READ!!

2008-08-21T18:46:00.000-05:00

Have you been searching for a good book to read?

Look no more because I have the perfect book for you. Do you want to be encouraged & motivated? If so, you need to read this book by Harold Kushner, "Overcoming Life's Disappointment". I could not put the book down when I started reading it. In fact, I read it to many of my friends. It was a topic of conversation for weeks.The book is written about the many challenges and disappointments of Moses. Many aspects of his life were examined and explained for our benefits.

Kushner writes, Moses triumphs were spectacular, but his frustrations and disappointments must have been searing. How did he do what he did? What depth of faith enabled him to cope with the disappointments? What can we learn from his story so that we too can do meaningful things in our own lives? "Will we, like Moses, be able to hear the commanding voice of God in the bleakest of surroundings, summoning us to be more than we ever thought we could and promising to be with us as we try to do that? And will we, like Moses, have the devotion to pick up the broken pieces of our most cherished dreams and carry them with us as we face our future?"

If you are looking for a book to help you deal successfully with disappointments in your life, try this book. Through the life of Moses, Kushner proves that we can overcome life's disappointments. This book is inspiring and offers spiritual wisdom. What's so GREAT about this writer is his ability to simplify life for us. Life is not that complicated if we stop relying upon ourselves.

LIES WOMEN BELIEVE...

2008-08-21T17:55:00.001-05:00

HAVE YOU EVER HAD THESE THOUGHTS?

God should fix my problems since I am a servant of his.

My sin is not really that bad.

I can make it without consistent time in the Word and prayer.

I have to have a husband to be happy.

If my circustmances were different, I would be different.

These are some lies that many of us have been taught and we believe them. However, with spritual insight from a spiritual woman, we could be free from these myths. It's Nancy Leigh DeMoss!

She is a Christian and she speaks the truth to women. I heard about this book at a Familylife Conference, last year. From the very beginning to the ending, this book freed me from some lies that I believed. In many areas, I am free from that twisted way of thinking. I realize that I am nothing without God in my life. It is he who knows what is best for me so I allow him to guide me and not SELF. Take a look at what she covers about God, Sin, Priorities, Marriage, Children, Emotions, and Circumstances.

A MUST READ!

2008-08-21T17:46:00.000-05:00

Here is a great read which is brief and concise. I know what you are thinking...she is single. Well, I am preparing for the future. Also, it is a great reminder for couples who have been married for years or even newlyweds who need guidance. Of course, nothing takes the place of God's Word, the Bible.

Readers, marriage consist of much more than a pretty white dress , a handsome mate, and a fabulous honeymoon. It is about a commitment between two people that are binded by Jehovah God. Yet, today, couples don't take marriage seriously. If things are not working as expected, then divorce is the ONLY option. How sad that those vows were only conditonal!

So, when you get a chance, read a chapter and you will enjoy it. Something just came to my mind about a lady who wanted her husband to change. Change started with her prayers and then her mate changed by means of her conduct. It is imperative that we realize that each person has a part in creating harmony within a marriage. It is all about TEAMWORK.

This book offers you helpful hints on how to listen CAREFULLY, ACCEPT differences, COMPLIMENT daily, and much more. Remember, everything in life has to be maintained in order to work properly and that includes a marriage.

HOW TO GET A DATE WORTH KEEPING!

2008-08-21T16:59:00.000-05:00

Take your time and discover who you are, do not limit yourself to a type of man or woman, get healthy yourself first in order to attract someone worth keeping, be yourself from the beginning, and set boundaries and do not SETTLE.

Single men and women, please pay attention! Dating is not about marriage. It is a process of getting to yourself and others without any romantic involvment.Romantic involvement clouds the process of getting to know the real person. In fact, this is one of the reasons that we are constantly dating but not finding a real KEEPER.

As a divorcee, it is a challenge to get back into the dating scene after a broken heart. Not to mention, that the rules of dating has changed alot.This book, "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping, " was written by Dr. Henry Cloud, a Christian, after he heard some single, attractive, and successful women talking about having a lack of dates. He discovered that most of these women went the same places every day which turned into the same places for a whole YEAR. How can you meet someone under these circumstances? In this book, he challenges YOU to go on many dates and suggest that you (THE WOMEN) initate the conversations.

After reading this book, I discovered that we have unrealistic expectations of others which are needs that we should meet for ourselves. To end, for some of us, it is our preferences that are preventing us from finding a date worth keeping.